This particular post was written for the ladies but I know you men are nosey and would read it anyway hehe
The Holy Spirit brought a recent memory to me that made me both laugh and also gave me more understanding to throw more light on this situation we’ve been discussing for the last two weeks. I was at work with my cousin and my phone battery was running low. I quickly pulled out my USB cable and noticed I left the charger head at home. I ask my cousin to lend me his and before he could reach into his bag for it, I shout, “I hope it’s not some Huawei or some other China charger head you are pulling out ooo, I don’t want to spoil my phone”. A couple of days later, HS brought this memory back and said, “if only my daughters would be so mindful of what and who they let into their bodies and their lives. Just like you panicked over the charger head you wanted to connect to your phone”. I giggled then right after I was sad. I have a phone case and a screen protector, I have a laptop sleeve, I would ask you the ‘sex’ history of your pen-drive before I insert it into my laptop. I know I’m not the only one. We are so quick to take care of and protect material things that we value because ‘I don’t want to ruin it’, ‘Do you know how expensive it is?’ Do you know how much it cost me or how much it would cost me to get it fixed?’
Well, do you know how much it cost God to free you from sin to be walking right back to it like a dog going back to eat its own vomit? (Proverbs 26:11) Do you know what He had to give up for your soul and body? Do you know how expensive you were? It took His Son dying to pay that debt! It took Heaven’s Darling to give up majesty for that seat of shame. It took the Prince of peace to die on a cross, in between two criminals… to be beaten up, spat on, mocked at, pierced in his side, whipped till you couldn’t tell his back flesh from minced meat. He was drained of His precious blood but you were worth it!
Yes, that’s exactly who you are! Regardless of what the world has said or made you feel; you are a daughter of a King! It breaks His heart to see that you don’t carry that identity with you. That you don’t treat yourself like royalty. That you don’t guard your heart and body like it was to die for, and it was! You are so special and dear to the father that He gave up His Son for you. You are so dear to Jesus that He chose to give up His life for you. I could bet that if He had to go through that all that pain again for you? He’d do it in a heart beat.
Now that’s love Princess! Love is PATIENT, love is KIND. It does not ENVY, it does not BOAST, it is not PROUD. It does NOT DISHONOR others (louder for my ladies at the back), it is not SELF-SEEKING (okay now you are shouting), it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does NOT delight in EVIL but rejoices with the truth. It ALWAYS PROTECTS, always TRUSTS, always hopes, always PERSEVERES. Love NEVER fails (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). Is this verse shouting in your ears like it’s doing mine? I have seen this, read it a couple of times even but today this verse is the loudest it’s ever been. A Man who LOVES you, would be patient to ermm like they say PUT A RING ON IT before he even thinks of undressing you. He would not dishonor your body for 3 minutes of ‘pleasure’. Pleasure that your conscience would worry you for the longest, is that one too pleasure? But yes! He would not even dream of it because He’s aware that this is the temple of His king and he knows better not to defile such a Holy place. He knows not play with royalty without permission and screening from His Majesty!
A man who loves you is selfless! He isn’t thinking about himself, He isn’t thinking about what’s good for you or him but what’s good for the kingdom, what’s good for purpose! A man who loves you does not delight in evil, He doesn’t delight in His displeasing Your Father, doesn’t delight in doing evil to you, your body and your soul. He doesn’t delight in unwrapping a gift He hasn’t been given yet. He knows a good father GIVES His daughter to a man before he can KNOW her, before he can explore her body! A Man who loves you knows He should protect you, protect your purity, protect your body, protect your relationship with your Father. A Man knows that good daughters make good women and they go on to make good wives, and eventually good mothers. A Man who loves you is future minded, He’s not a fornicator and profane like Esau who sold His birthright for one morsel of meat (Hebrews 12:6) He’s not the man who says ‘feed me your body now for I’m at a point of lust, what use is your purity to me later when I can ‘eat’ and die now?’ (Genesis 25:32)
A Man who loves you, perseveres to the end. You are not a girl to him, you are THE girl. He doesn’t see today, he doesn’t see just tomorrow, he sees years and years with you by his side as his helpmeet joint together the right way. That doesn’t see a sex object but sees a purpose helper, a mother, a companion, a best friend! He’s not drawn to you by your body because he knows it’s only a house your beautiful soul lives in, he sees you beyond your covering because the body will perish or well lose its form in some way (he’s seen your mother, baby lol) but the inward flower blossoms day by day. A Man who loves you is a man connected to the Father, is a man who understands the wait! One who understands the significance and he guards it! A Man who loves you will not get to ‘know’ you before it’s time to.
Read between the lines baby girl, that boy (can’t be a man) cannot and doesn’t love you! He lusts you! He lusts after your body and your body alone. Yes, I know you hear I love you when you have sex or you assume he does that’s why he wants to ‘make love’ to you but that’s not love boo boo, that’s lust! You don’t make love; make a God (who just happens to be Love) covenant outside of His will, outside of his demarcations! He wants your body and nothing else, why else would he be angry and struggle with you when you want to take sex off the table. I mean if it’s not a big deal why isn’t he waiting till he marries you? He doesn’t see generations, he doesn’t see years, he sees today! He’s Esau! Love waits! Love is patient… God loves us so He’s patient with us. Jacob loved Rachel so He waited an extra 7 years for her. Love waits! If he loved you, he’d wait till you are in the covenant with God to have you.
He doesn’t value you. When you value some thing you don’t trash it, you don’t tramp on it and ruin it. You protect it, you nurture it, you care for it, you want the best for it. When you value someone, you have value for their beliefs, what is important to them is important to you because they are important to you. You value them so you honor them. When you have pre- marital sex, he’s saying I don’t have any value for you to have you the right way. I don’t value you to treat you and your body as Christ requires me to. I’m selfish and I just need to quench this thirst.
“what is important to them is important to you because they are important to you.”
He doesn’t respect your God. The Holy Spirit asked me if I would marry someone who utterly disrespected my parents and trashed their house? Disregarded their every word? ‘Absolutely not! I won’t even continue to date him, then to think of marrying him’. However, as a believer you can watch your boyfriend disrespect Me, disrespect My words, disrespect my temple? And call it love? Every time he sleeps with you, he’s saying I don’t respect Your Father, I don’t respect His plans for you, I don’t respect His instructions.
Love, I need you to pick up your tiara you kicked under the bed, blow the dust off it and fix it on back on your head. God is like the father of the prodigal son, you aren’t too far from him, no one is! He is right there outside the gate of the house with his arms opened wide ready to take you back in and show you how to live like the woman that you are, the daughter He made you to be, go back to Him and let Him present to you a Man who knows Him, knows His heart, knows His plans for you, knows His value of you, knows His responsibility to you. A Man He Himself hand-picked to suit you like no other.
Baby Girl, you are a daughter of a king, it’s high time you started acting like one!