Seeing as it’s 25 days to the end of the year, I thought I could try something out to challenge myself and also use it as an opportunity to share 25 things I’ve learned this year. This year was really a good one for me. I say this and I’m pretty sure someone thinks everything was going so well for me hehehe well everything is going so well for me but this year I have had to deal with things I never could imagine. I have cried tears that have shocked me, I have felt a rage I never knew I had. This year, I have experienced all the emotions I had kept locked away for years. It was nasty, ugly, dirty, scary but it was ashes that I love because God is giving me beauty for it.
So first thing I’m sharing from what I learnt this year is ‘To err is human, to forgive is divine’ I have known this saying for years and I’ve always understood it as; to make mistakes, to offend or to commit a sin is human nature. Once we are human, scripture says offenses would come but to forgive is divine is that to forgive is a Godly nature. if you call yourself a believer, you have God inside of you so you should forgive because God forgives and this is all truth but this year I learned ‘to forgive is divine’ differently. I learned that the ability to forgive takes divinity to accomplish. The Holy Spirit has to help you to forgive because it’s impossible on your own. You have to call on Him to assist you to forgive because He’s the source of Godliness, of holiness so to be able to do this divine act, you NEED Him.
If you’ve met me just a few times or seen me from a distance , you wouldn’t be able to imagine me get angry or get offended. I believe because of that, people have no idea that they offend me or they pay no regard to it when they do because I had picked up as a kid that no one expected me to be offended so I couldn’t, I’d make excuses for them, sometimes take the blame because to me that was me forgiving them or letting it go but this year lol this year I realized that I had been offended a lot! I had just been piling them up in a storehouse and like Lazarus in the tomb… it was stinking!!! This year, my dad and I went on a journey to places in my emotions I had never been, that ‘offense drawer’ was opened and I was amazed at the things I had been holding in. I was amazed about how anger and hurt from years ago had unconsciously informed some decisions today. Hurt that made me vow things that I unconsciously was still keeping.
I also revisited situations where I may have hurt and offended people as well and by His Grace I am taking steps to make things right. I realized that it only takes the Holy Spirit to deal with hurt from the root. Most of us are walking around with things we haven’t dealt with, things we haven’t attended to and have no plans to. Walking around like ‘it’s okay’ and ‘it’s never that deep’ ‘it happens’ (I’m sure if we are close you’ve heard me say these plenty of times) I genuinely thought I had let go of some things, I genuinely thought I hadn’t even taken offense to some things but I asked the Holy Spirit to help me live my best life and to shoot into the sky, you first have to go deep into the earth.
Forgiveness is divine. It is an act of divinity but it’s also an act for divinity. Saying this is saying that yes forgiveness is a Godly thing but it also takes God to make it happen. He needs to inhabit the situation and help you deal with it and from what I experience the first step of your walk to forgiveness is in the acknowledgment of the hurt. If God shows you something you are offended about or hurt about and you protect it and deny it. He won’t force to take it off you, He works within our will so He’d allow you to hold on to it.
Sweetheart it doesn’t matter if it was 20 years ago, it doesn’t matter if it was a tiny matter or a matter of little to no relevance. You should acknowledge it to deal with it. You will not believe how much of your life that tiny hurt is eating from you and how much your personality is distorted because of it. Talk to the Holy Spirit, He would lead you into all truth. It’s really time to live your best life & be the best version of you.
To Err is Human, To forgive is divine! Until tomorrow, stay blessed.