There is this weird thing I do (Yes! I know I have a lot of weird things I do! lol) with the Holy Spirit where I invite Him for my imaginary talk show. He takes a seat and we have a talk. I ask Him questions, He asks me questions and sometimes the invisible host of angels (our audience) cheer- Laughs! This happens almost everyday. Our most recent show was on a rather pertinent topic? FORNICATION! Yup, you read right but no, I’m not addressing people in the world fooling around today especially because they don’t know any better. You need to know better to do better. I’m talking about us believers.
I don’t know if it’s the age I’m at, the people I’m meeting or I’m just being opened to it but sexual immorality these days is just ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous! When the Holy Spirit brought this to my attention and told me I had to speak out, I begged Him to give me something else. I’d rather speak on the nonsense feminist movement (which I would talk about soon) and have the world jump on me than sexual immorality because shamefully and unfortunately I have acquaintances that are fornicating and I stupidly don’t want to get them uncomfortable. I wanted to avoid writing this because I didn’t want to sound judgmental and in all honesty, more than that, I feel it’s none of my business or so I thought! The Holy Spirit brought to my attention that when a believer fornicates, He or she is not doing harm to their own bodies alone but defiling the entire body of Christ as well (1 Corinthians 6:15). Evidently, since I am a member of this body it’s MY business big time and as a believer it should be yours too. I also forgot that if I want to have fellowship with the Holy Spirit, He comes in as LORD. He dictates, He leads the way and I follow. I will not compromise the relationship with the very One making me sane and giving my life meaning in choosing not to write this because of the comfort of the very people He wants to help.
The Holy Spirit brought to my attention that when a believer fornicates, He or she is not doing harm to their own bodies alone but defiling the entire body of Christ as well (1 Corinthians 6:15).
So I asked Him why are so many Christians backsliding, why are they falling back into their sins so easily? Why people think marriage would cure their lust problem, why virgins think they’ve accomplished some huge thing. In vogue these days, people are fornicating, getting pregnant and doing a quick ceremony to cover it up (as if that solves the issue). People can freely have sex with their boyfriends/girlfriends (not spouses) and it’s so casual like they are sharing kelewele, no! no! wait I only share my kelewele with special people, let’s use crackers and for them its alright. In fact, its low-key being accepted. But I am not permitted to speak out about it because “duhhh Jewie they would get married eventually plus it’s 2017! I mean take a chill pill.” Hmmph *face palm*
I remember back in university, I had to be silent because I didn’t want to sound too ‘crife‘. I didn’t want to lose acquaintances and like I said earlier I didn’t want to sound ‘judgy’ concerning the matter so I kept quiet and it was one of the hugest mistakes I made. Why? Because the spirit of the mixed multitudes crept in. I was neither here or there, I was what we call lukewarm. I remember so vividly the first time I passed by a room, heard loud music and was told it meant someone was having sex. I was so disgusted! “Wait, unmarried people are having sex in a dorm room!” I mean I had heard it happened but I didn’t think it was entirely true and to think they weren’t shy about it to keep quiet about it? But I chose to be silent and I realized that as the days and weeks went by, I would pass by a room with loud music and then giggle. The disgust slowly faded away. Now I’d try and guess who could be inside. That was the devil trying to normalize fornication for me.
“The devil trying to normalize fornication for me”
I remember I’d hear acquaintances were having sex and be shocked. I mean eye opened wide shocked but I kept quiet and after a while I got to the point where I’d say ‘at least it’s her boyfriend alone she’s sleeping with‘. I remember being silent to the little seemingly harmless act people will engage in because ‘at least they weren’t having sex‘. Forgetting that Jesus in fulfilling the law made us understand that looking at the opposite sex lustfully is equal to adultery or fornication. I remember hearing these stories and my heart would sink each time because I knew these people, I knew it wasn’t right, I knew some of them fell into fornication due to pressure. Now I recall and my heart sinks because I was just a coward. I couldn’t speak up. I was ashamed of the gospel and rather not disgusted by sin. I remember in my senior year, I’m sure my roommate would remember, I was so convicted in my spirit I told her I’d never not want to be shocked if I heard people were fornicating. I would never want to just shrug and act like it’s not a big deal. I was not going to normalize and make light of fornication.
You know why I love the Holy Spirit? Because He loves me so much and has so much patience for me. He endures all my rants and stubbornness. He takes time to break down the principles and instructions of God because a sister can be slow up there lol. In line with our talk, He gave me answers, clarified some misconceptions and this is what I’ll be sharing with you.
Some of us Christians are slipping back into our sins for two reasons; the Holy Spirit does not abide in us and because when we came to Christ we didn’t renew our minds (Romans 12:2). I have read that the Holy Spirit never leaves us. The premise for this misconception is that Christ promised to leave us His Sweet Spirit, who will abide with us forever. I know personally I make that mistake a lot. When Jesus said ‘abide in you forever’ He didn’t mean the individual, He meant the Church; the body of Christ. If the literal translation were true, why would scripture talk about being twice dead? We know you can’t physically die twice now can we? By God’s Spirit giving us understanding, we know He was talking about spiritual death and you can only spiritually die when the source of Life; the Holy Spirit leaves you. So often, people believe that since the Holy Spirit isn’t going anywhere, they take advantage of Him. They listen to Him when it’s convenient to do so, they ran to Him to help them clean up their mess even though they clearly ignored His promptings, His instructions, His rebuke and His teachings. Picture this! Imagine you went to a place and the boss was taking orders from his employees. He was ignored and disrespected, for example, told to shut up. Wouldn’t you think He was foolish, ignorant and incompetent? But we somehow think we can do same to The Holy Spirit because He works FOR us, after all isn’t he here to abide forever? If you thought so then I’m here to burst your bubble of ignorance and have you know that where the Spirit of the Lord is not LORD, He’s not there at all. Yes, He is with us to be our comforter and our Helper but we are not the boss, He is.
The one who accepts the Holy Spirit but not his Lordship are only worldly with the Christian tag so they are therefore doing things by their own strength instead of leaning on grace and you and me both know that it would fail them. “They are lukewarm so I spew them out!”
- That being said, the background struggle on why people fornicate has been underlined. If this has been echoed loudly, when then are you fornicating? Because you failed to acknowledge the Spirit of God as Lord so He left you. Without the Spirit of Holiness residing inside of you, I’m sorry but you can try but you would not be able to birth the fruit of Holiness. Let me just mention that the Holy Spirit does not leave you because you sinned but rather it’s because He left you, that’s why you fell into sin. it’s why the Bible calls it ‘dead works’. Works born out of your spiritual death. Born because the Spirit left. So first thing you’d like to know that your sins didn’t sack Him, it’s because He left, you fell into them.
- We don’t properly repent from falling into sin. If we do not accept the forgiveness of Christ and instead keep our sin, that sin remains with us! You can’t improve on what you don’t accept. People think once nobody knows about it, you could just up and stop by your own strength and that’s it! Tell me how is that working out for you?
- The Bible says it should not be mentioned amongst you ONCE but for some reasons we think we can handle it. We come to Christ and do not go through the renewal process so we are Christ-labeled yet world-minded. We keep the same old friends, we watch the same old things, we have the same old conversations. We say the salvation prayer with no active commitment to transform our being to this new way of life. It is therefore easy to slip back into the mess because our bodies crave the old.
- I used to think this was the dumbest reason but I’m growing to understand that it really can’t be as easy as it looks, but we stay fornicating because we don’t want to lose our partners. It’s what our relationship is built on (if we’d be honest) so taking it out of the equation is losing the relationship as a whole. In our quest to preserve what we have we stay defiling the body of Christ.
- I want to believe we are also fornicating because we haven’t come to the full realization of the gravity of it. We also haven’t come to the full realization of the glory that comes with saving yourself for marriage. The word hasn’t been made flesh in your hearts and in your mind. It’s these distant conversation believers have but the truth hasn’t been presented to you as it should be. Unfortunately, churches are more concerned with the numbers than the quality of their members so fornication will not be preached. Things like keeping the tithe coming in and attendance are more important for us.
I’m leaving you with five of the reasons but in the next episode of the truth behind fornication, I may bring you more. I’d be talking more about it, addressing celibacy, the virgins, believers still going back to eat their own vomit, I’d be addressing the solutions, sharing my personal encounter and hopefully I may have some guest writers sharing their views and experiences. I’d be sharing a story about a man whom by the help of the Spirit fought through and at the end had a glorious wedding to His bride. You are going to want to stay tuned.
Until next time, stay blessed!