Today I’d like to use this ‘challenge’ as an opportunity to introduce a topic I’d be writing on God willing next year. (Yes your inconsistent baby girl is already planning ahead- new year, new me 🤧). It’s something that my father has been trying to teach me for years but a sister would never understand. In this last year, I think I’ve been catching glimpses of what He was saying and doing. I am slowly coming to the understanding of why He did them and even though the fight isn’t over yet, I have come to appreciate some of his efforts to get this message across.
Growing up, I had always felt my father was extra with his principles. To me, He had these really high standards we would never reach. Some of the things seemed just plain ridiculous and most of the times would leave me angry. Now, I think about it and realize that really, the young will grow. If we were students and my dad was a teacher, even at 99%, He’d write ‘still room for improvement’ and that’s not to say he didn’t acknowledge the 99% we had, oh he will praise us and give all the accolades but then let you know there was still more room to cover.
I’m not talking about academics though, I’m talking about life and I remember vividly one time he was talking to me about a character flaw I had and I blurt out ‘ Daddy, do you know what other girls my age are doing out there? ‘ and his response has held my attention till date. He said ‘ doing better than the world should never be your standard, the standard bearer is God. When I say ‘not good enough’ I’m comparing you to who you can and should be according to God’s standard for your life’.
This year I’m really learning that the standard is God. He determines what’s good and what’s not, what’s enough and what needs more work. He determines the standard of life. When I say this, what I’m saying is that you don’t create your own standard for different areas in your life, God does. You can’t on your own decide that you are a good person when you are not living life according to scripture definition of what good is. You can’t by yourself decide that you are a good friend or good spouse when you aren’t walking or living out scripture. God defines what good is. He decides when you’ve ‘done well’. Most of us walk through life, determining our own standards by either comparing where we stand with the world or determining it based on our weakness.
The world is lowering the standards every day so somehow we are convinced that once we are doing better than people in the world then we are doing good. No, good isn’t merely living above the standards of world, good is living on the standards of His word (bars!!!! Lol). The world isn’t the creator of life so it doesn’t get to decide what the standard of it is. If you are close to me, you’d realize I’ve actually picked up what my dad would do that I used to hate. When you say ‘oh this person is a good friend ’ for example, I would usually respond ‘ according to whose standard?’. I think we as believers lowkey see the standard of God as too high to achieve so we’ve come to settle for ‘better than the world’ but doing better than the world has never and will never be God’s standard of living. He has graced us to be far above them. Graced us to live as Christ did.
Doing better than the world is easy because they are living a lowly life; rock bottom so rising above them is the easiest and least rewarding life we could ever live as believers. Today I’m here not only to share what I’m slowly learning but also to hopefully cause a shift in your focus. Stop looking back at the world to measure how good you are living but look to scripture. Let that be your focus, let that be your guidance. The more we feed on the Word, the more like Christ we become and then we live according to His standards. The Grace abounds, you just have to get connected in order to be resourced. Until tomorrow, God bless!