I was that person who would reply a minute after I receive your message, that person who would stop what I was doing to attend to you if you needed me to, that person who would go all the way for someone. If a friend had an event, I’d show up and if I couldn’t, it will eat me up until I could make it up to them. I am still that person and will always be. I’m slowly accepting it’s just who I am.
Someone could leave me on read for hours or days and the moment they replied, I would reply back. Someone will ignore me until they need me and I could not just bring myself to give them that same energy. Trust me I’d try but I’d break. Sometime this year I got sick of it. I messaged a friend and I’d say 98% of the conversations or interactions we’ve had since I met her back in uni was initiated by me. I would always check in, always gass her up when she uploaded a new photo or had something good going on for her, you know. So I decided to ignore until she noticed and well check up but yeah your girl broke after a month or two and hit her up. She replied with ‘aye you are brown oo I haven’t heard from you in a long time’. I was so so mad! That day I decided ‘well I’m going to start giving people the energy they give me.’
I had purposed in my heart that I wasn’t going to be taken for a fool anymore. I was going to treat people just as they treat me. You know ‘same energy’. Then one time, in my spirit I heard ‘Don’t give people the energy they deserve, give them the energy YOU deserve’. Don’t treat people as they treat you, treat them as you’d want to be treated. Treat them as Christ would. I know it’s HARD!! Okay no, it only seems hard because when God calls us to do something, He makes grace available for its execution. The only thing from what I learnt this year that makes it so hard is something called Pride! Pride will have you believe that you are being taken for a fool, being taken advantage of and yes some people will try to take advantage of you so be mindful of those. Pride will have you harden your heart and have you believe the ways of scripture is foolish.
Do good always darlings! As believers, it’s what Christ has called us to do. Sometimes it will go unappreciated, trust me I’ve been there. Sometimes it would be ignored entirely, sometimes it would get you so worked up but remember the person that has the power to influence & alter your personality/character becomes your Lord. Also, remember that we didn’t deserve Christ, we couldn’t earn Him however God freely gave Him up for us. He was spat on, kicked, mocked, humiliated yet He didn’t respond. He didn’t give us the same energy. Whoa just imagine if He did?
We all say we want to be like Christ and one way we can show our likeness to Him is to love as He did! To do unto others as we want it to be done unto us, as Christ would have done. Don’t give people the energy they deserve, you’d only become like them. Regardless of the energy you get, give back what you would want to receive. Dear believer, Guard your heart always and keep it tender. Until tomorrow, stay blessed!
Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: – Matthew 7:12