If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.- Romans 12:18
Friendship is a covenant I take very seriously. I believe you should be cordial with the friends and family of your friends. I mean your friends influence you like it or not so it just makes sense that you know what kind of influence they have because it sort of leads back to you. It also makes sense to know the kind of people in their bad books. It just gives you a better understanding to who this person you are soul tying with but to inherit them as your own? No please! The Lord and I approveth not!! Listen loves, listen hard and listen good! Don’t inherit the enemies of your friends and acquaintances. Just don’t !! It’s ridiculous and it’s childish. It’s ungodly to live life with hate in your heart for someone, for me it is more ungodly and a little demonic if you hate someone who has caused you personally no harm or trouble.
This year I learned that there should be no one generally you dislike so much you can’t cover with prayer or you can’t intercede for. No one! Your enemies, God says love them (Matthew 5:44). You should not be hurt or annoyed by anyone so much that if God said I need you to take 3 days aside and wait on me while you pray for them, you’d have to disobey God. This year, I learned that hard!
Let me share something with you, maybe you will understand why I started with this whole enemy inheritance topic. So I have this friend now whom I love so much. We became friends maybe a year or two ago and really I’ve been blessed by her but that wasn’t always the case. So, a couple of years prior, God would place it on my heart to pray for her and I’d ignore it all the time because of all the friends she had, why me? “Also!!! God, you know I’m not friends with her, we don’t click!” So one day, Señor No Chill ( if you are new to my blog, it’s how I refer to the Holy Spirit sometimes )asked me ‘why?’ And I was about to reply when I realized I was blank. The only thing holding me back was the fact that she and a friend of mine weren’t friends. They had some beef of some sort yearsss ago and I had inherited it. She had done nothing personally to me, she was not even the same person anymore and the reason for their fight as I looked at it again was plain ridiculous.
I was unable to love her with prayer just because I had inherited her as an enemy. Even when I came to that realization, it was still hard for me to do as I was asked. I hadn’t realized that this ungodly act was making me disobey God. Then He said you know what, don’t only pray for her, reach out. “Oh dear!!” Sweethearts, it took months! Months to do that but I finally did and not only is the work of God being accomplished in both our lives because of it but she’s amazing! That experience taught me a lot.
Last year through this year, the list became weirder and weirder but I’d just do i anywayt. Then I realized what was happening, I was learning that there should be no man so deep in my “bad books” that I can’t pray for. So We ( Señor & I ) undertook an exercise this year, if He needed me to pray for someone, reach out or just do something nice for someone who hurt me or was an ‘enemy’ to me, for every bad thing I remember they did to me I had to list 5 good things about them to counter that one thing. So as their naughty list increases so does their nice list. We will do this until I can make the ‘nice list’ easily and weirdly by the time I’m finished, I noticed the anger had left me, sometimes I’d notice how childish the fight even was. If He mentioned the name of someone I just inherited due to friendship, for most of them I didn’t even know the people well enough to be hurt by them so there was no ‘naughty list’ or bad list and there couldn’t be a good list because I barely knew these people for myself. It made realize how silly it was for me to carry dislike for them. Someone would think I’m writing this now at the finishing line. Like it’s something that comes easy to me now. No please, the struggle is so real!! Now, i have to fight hard when a friend annoys me because I have to mentally make that nice list and listing all those nice things takes the energy away. I don’t know if it’s just me but sometimes you just want to be annoyed for a while. Hehe funny, as I write this now I’m mentally making a nice list.
I’m trying hard to make these daily post brief so I’d just cut it short here even though I have much more to say, just maybe I’d raise it up again some other time but yes one thing I’ve learned is that you need to learn to love your enemies. You should not be so hurt or angered by someone so much that you can’t pray for them or you can’t reach out or obey an instruction from God that concerns them. Think about it, disobedience to God concerning their lives puts them on a higher scale than God Himself (this literally just hit me). Like scripture says, as much as you can, live at peace with all men. It doesn’t mean be friends with everyone or let just anyone in but don’t let your heart be waxed so gross against someone that you can’t love them with prayer. Until tomorrow, stay blessed
PS: if you are my friend and have inherited someone based on my foolishness or childishness, please let it go as I am too. The Master might just have need of us on their behalf. Even if He doesn’t, Just to fulfill scripture in living peace, let’s take this repentance & forgiveness journey together.