First I’d like to apologize for not keeping my promise to post every day. I had a prayer retreat and couldn’t squeeze in time to write. Yesterday at church, we were talking about the spirit of gratitude and how it’s lacking in our generation BIG TIME!!! The pastor briefly made mention of the spirit of familiarity and that’s something I’ve learnt this year. It hit me hard a few years ago but this is the year, I’ve been conscious not to invite that spirit into my life. I have been telling my friends all through this year that they’ve made room for the spirit of familiarity. They’ve grown familiar with me. So familiar that they think of me and think I’m merely cute but I’m actually quite the stunner hehehe
Okay let’s be serious lol About two years ago, I met or ‘remet’ someone. I’m not sure what to call what was happening with us. With all these new generation Z terms I can’t even keep up but I would have called it ‘Talking’ or a ‘situationship’ of some sort. Looking at how things played out, it could have been none of the above lol Anyway, it’s when i heard loudly to not grow so familiar with people that they can’t be a blessing in your life. Imagine, it took a boy for me to learn that. I have two whole pastors living in my house and it took a situationship to teach me that. *facepalm*. It’s one of the things I learnt from him and that period. I had never wanted to grow too familiar of him that if he ever shared the word with me, share some revelation with me or pinpointed something about my character I wouldn’t be blessed by his actions. So we could play the fool, make jokes and be silly but the moment he switched to say something to teach or bless me, i’d listen. Of course sometimes I’d roll my eyes but later it goes into my notes and sometimes I even share with others. Let me just squeeze in here, Never let a period or a situation pass without looking for the lesson. We never meet people by chance. You should always pay attention to what the person or period has to teach you. Regardless of how things play out, look for the message. I have this thing I do where I mentally pick up someone I met and say out the things all they taught me. I walk the journey in my mind to see what I could have missed.
This year more than ever, I extended this consciousness to all my relationships. From parents to friends. I’m making a conscious effort to not be so familiar with them that they can’t bless me or teach me if they had to. I can’t even begin to mention the huge impact that has had on my life. I have learnt a whole lot from places I never thought to look at! As for my father, hmm if I had known not to grow familiar with him early in life, I’d have been one of the MOST amazing people you’d meet. I’d have been so mature, handled a lot of things differently and I’d be the living, breathing example of the manifestation of the love of God but here we are lol
My friend from like before nursery got married recently and now has an adorable princess whom I utterly love ( if you have me on WhatsApp you’ve probably seen me dote on her) and I think I have spent at least a day every week since she was born with them. My oh my!! I have learnt a lot, not just in taking care of a new born but I have watched how my friend handles her home ( husband, baby & house) and it’s been so beautiful to watch. She’s taught me so much and I make sure to tell her. It’s important to express how well someone is doing; to notice/appreciate effort. Anyway, it made me think about what I could have learnt from her in uni( we were roomies) that I didn’t because I had invited the spirit of familiarity to reign in my affairs. I’m thinking about the things I could have picked up on if she wasn’t just my close quiet childhood friend. I think about those days and it hurts me to think I couldn’t even create the environment for her to bless me.
I have learnt so much from my little sisters. In conversations and even the ones where I’m supposed to be giving them counsel, their response or even their appreciation of what I was sharing with them taught me so much. Sometimes on their own, they share something in passing and I’m so blessed by it. Believe me, years ago I would have missed every single word of it. I would not have been in any position to learn from them. It’s not that I wouldn’t want to listen, I wouldn’t have even recognized the substance in the first place to reject it. I mean “little girl, what could you possibly teach me that I didn’t already know”. This year I know better and I am learning more. Everyone walks around with knowledge, wisdom, understanding, perspective and experience you can learn from. Don’t be on your high horse or don’t normalize everyone around you that you can’t receive from them. However check the spirit and check the motive alright.
From my parents to my friends, I’m learning more and more to never grow familiar with people around you because God can use anyone to bless you. It could be king Melchizedek in the story of Abraham or it could be the little maid in the story of Naaman. Imagine if Jonathan was too occupied or proud to notice the greatness that was David. We are surrounded by great men and women but the spirit of familiarity is withholding their impact from us. We see them as ordinary. It doesn’t matter if it’s your sibling or someone you joke around with, never grow too familiar with them that you can’t receive of/from them if God decides to use them. Everyone around you has something to give that you don’t have. Most of us are just full of ourselves, full of pride or have invited the spirit of familiarity in our midst so we don’t even recognize their potential. Remember that the people from Jesus’ hometown were too familiar with Him that He could not do any mighty work amongst them. Who are you growing familiar with? Who are you denying the ability to do mighty work in your life? Ponder on these things! Until next time, stay blessed.