You know I used to look at the story of Esau & Jacob and roll my eyes. Yes Jacob was a supplanter and all but I can’t be the only one who looked at Esau and thought ‘ what a fool?’ How on earth can you trade your birthright for food! Not land, not properties, not your wife or a child or something that will make us try to understand him a little. Food! He traded such a valuable thing for food; as my Fante people will say Edziban! The food too it wasn’t a buffet, like an array of exotic dishes that He’d be so full, He can’t breathe, I’m pretty sure it was just a bowl or two. I mean how foolish can you be right?
I had this conversation with Señor No Chill sometime in the year and I was going on and on like I am right now. I’d kiss my teeth, shake my head and call Esau names. I mentioned how he deserved it and how Jacob wasn’t to be applauded for being sly because Esau freely gave it to him and all. You know how your girl likes to talk plenty. Then right in the middle of it, He said you sold out your birthright too. You live today with only today in mind. No thought of the future, no thought of what you are giving up to be on that path. You live lowkey believing that the end will justify the means but that’s totally untrue. You believe that God is unconcerned with the journey. God should understand that you had to, that ‘man for chop’. I mean it’s okay once you don’t get caught, once you don’t do it again, once you don’t harm anyone. You sell out destiny because of what you want on your plate today.
This morning I was having a conversation with God. I was talking about my marriage, making declarations and asking God where I fall short and what my struggles are or will be if I don’t attend to them. He said something that held my attention. He said “ Don’t make a flesh decision. Don’t be an Esau”. Don’t give up your destiny to feed your flesh today. Jacob was future minded. No one applauds his actions but we have to hand it to him that he could recognize the seed. He could recognize the importance of the blessing for his future. He wasn’t looking at today, he was looking at generations to come and He understood the blessing of a Father.
Most of us are making Flesh decisions. Being Esau on the daily in different areas of our lives but because of my conversation today I’m going to introduce the focus on relationships/marriage. We make decisions based on how we feel today. How they make us feel today. We make decision based on who we both are today. We are generation that is swayed by our flesh. “Forget the next five years, we’d cross that bridge when we get to it” “ Forget the will of God, we’d try to fit our own choice in His will” “Forget the next generation” “Forget destiny.” “Once we work, its fine”. It doesn’t seem like it because we don’t actually say these things but it reflects in our choices. It reflects in our struggles. We are fighting some battles with our partners, with ourselves and with circumstances we really shouldn’t be.
Recently, I read somewhere that you get to choose your partner but your kids don’t get to choose their parents. Your decision should have them in mind. That’s not to make the children the reason for your marriage but they are products of your marriage. They don’t deserve to go through so much because of your fleshy choices. On the flip side to this whole Easu agenda, sometimes some thing is good for your destiny but comes in a seed form today so you reject it. You despise it because it doesn’t look like the fruit of tomorrow. You want some thing that immediately makes sense or immediately ‘fills you up’. Sometimes you want something that covers you up in the moment like Adam and Eve with the fig leaves with no thought of how it will hold in the future. I know someone probably thinks I take relationships/marriage a little too seriously. Sometimes my own mind tells me that I do too. Then I think about the fact that my union is supposed to reflect God’s idea of the relationship between Christ and the church, bear the same fruits and realize maybe I’m not taking it seriously enough.
I’m learning that we are consciously or unconsciously living life like Esau in some (if not all) areas of our lives.It might be in your education, job, relationship of any kind or our every day affairs in life. We are giving up our destinies, stepping out of God’s perfect Will for our lives because we are not looking beyond today. We are feeding our flesh because it feels like we are at the point of ‘death’ so what use would be our destiny/birthright? – Esau (something something BC). I am writing this and I’m unsatisfied with how much I’ve said but these daily entries aren’t for my plenty talk so I’d definitely pick this up again. However I urge you to go to God and have the Holy Spirit reveal to you the ways you’ve sold out destiny for ‘today’. Have Him show you the ways you MAY sell out the seed because you don’t recognize it or because your flesh is louder than His voice. Sometimes we just need a moment to be still and let the Holy Spirit break down the journey for you. He will if you ask Him. He’d show you where each path would lead, He’d show you how your flesh is in play and all. He’s a good God and withholds nothing you need from you. Until tomorrow, stay blessed loves