Do you boo
Be real and be unapologetically you!! I think one of the problems of our generation is acceptance. Because we crave the need to be accepted, we end up losing ourselves and creating a different persona that people will accept. We alter who we are so much that after a while we ourselves begin to believe in the lie or believe in this new person we have created as our authentic selves.
I’m learning that in the midst of all society is forcing us to be, be real! Be you! It doesn’t matter who likes it or not. As a believer, If it’s not living in offense to God or your neighbour intentionally then do you boo boo! As a generation with identity crisis, our quest to be affirmed and fit in is on steroids. We would only enjoy things that people hype and will dislike things that the majority dislikes. We are altering our dress/hair style, our taste in music and movies. People are determining for us where the coolest hang out is, what item we should own. It gets exhausting though, doesn’t it? because it’s ever changing.
I’m learning to be real with myself and with others too. If I can’t afford something I’m not forcing to purchase it. If I can’t afford to go somewhere, I’m sitting at home. I’m not going to live above my means in order to keep up with a hype. I’m not going to wear a fanny pack just because everyone is, i’d wear it because I like it myself. I’m not going to go crazy about Beyoncé because she has a whole hive behind her. I’m not going to watch GOT or Power because everyone is. I’m not going to force to eat at some place if I can’t afford it yet. I’m not going to go broke trying to live up to an image I clearly can’t afford.
Do you boo! People like you and if they don’t, they should run along then. One thing I realized this past year is that people are silently watching you; learning and admiring you. You might not think you are much in comparison to people but believe me, you are just enough to the right people.
I’m learning to have the tough conversations with myself. If I don’t like something, I’m not going to force to like it to fit it, if I can’t do something I’m not going to say I can. If I don’t understand something, I’d ask or I’d google it and let you know that I did. If you mention something that I can’t relate too, I’d say I can’t relate. If I have no idea about the topic I’m not going pretend I do.
DO YOU BOO! In my opinion, don’t even feel like you HAVE TO go somewhere or be someone or have something in order to belong. Choose to because you want to on your own not because you feel you HAVE TO. It’s different if you want it because it’s useful or simply cool to have but don’t let society force your hand. Trust me, sometimes it’s subtle. You don’t even know how you began to wish for the things you do but then you just do so be vigilant darlings.
I’m not saying everything people are doing are bad so be a weirdo and avoid everything but ask yourself some questions and be honest with yourself. Ask yourself what your motivation is. “Do I really need to be there, do i really need to own this? Am I doing this for me? Do i really enjoy this? Am I being swayed just by the hype? Is it worth it? Can i keep up with this lifestyle? Can I afford this? Does this benefit me?” Just make sure you don’t lose yourself trying to fit in because you’d eventually get lost in the crowd. Until tomorrow, stay blessed