Get rid of clutter and you may just find that it was blocking the door your’ve been looking for” – Katrina Mayer
This past year, one of my favourite word to hear has been cleanse! I never quite got into doing a body cleanse because your girl like to eat junk but we are penciling it in for next year (I might be lying hehe). One day, one day I’d do my body right, cleanse it of the bad stuff and feed it with the good stuff. One day, one day people.
Like I’ve done for the last 4 years, this year I took a social media break or two or three! I can’t even remember but there were times were I felt so disconnected and I was just getting caught up in all the noise and foolishness online that I needed to take a step back and reevaluate myself. Cancel out all the noise and just hear myself think and hear Señor No Chill too! I recommend it. I recommend that every year you take a small moment for yourself and just enjoy each day away from your screens.
For me, my niece was born a day into my last social media break. Perfect timing, I know right! I would use all my time to making sure I imprint on her so she crowns best auntie hehe but yes I spent quality time with her and her mum. We could talk for hours and I’d have no notifications distracting me. The only time my phone will come out was if she was doing something extra cute with her face. I was in no hurry to share her with the world. I’d go out and notice the most random things and I’d engage in face to face conversations with people. I realized that there is a big world out there, one we wouldn’t see while our heads are still buried in our devices.
Aside the social media detox, I did some unfollowing, some contact deletion, some photo and video deletions. *GASP* I know right! Anyone who knows me knows I’m a memory hoarder but some things needed to go. So yup I got rid of some things, I did a closet cleanse hehe (as if I have some plenty clothes Tchew) but yeah I think that has always been the easiest for me. If I can’t fit into it, it’s gone. If I haven’t worn it in the last 3 months? It’s gone well unless it’s one of those classic dresses that come out once in a while but you get me. I also did a life cleanse. I was holding on to people and fighting hard for people that did not want to be in my life. Do I still care for them? Absolutely! Do I still pray for them? Have you met the Holy Spirit? Hehe I sure do! Would I support them if they needed me to? Have you met me hehe But do I need them front and center in my life? Nope and that’s really okay because I don’t think they need me so ever present in their lives either. It’s scary I know, you all this history with them, secrets too maybe! You have all these mutual friends and all but sometimes you need to let yourself out when you are toxic for people or unappreciative of them. Do them the favour and walk away amicably.
“You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterdays junk” – Louise Smith
Aside people cleanse, there is behavior/attitude cleanse too. Yup, call out the demons and name them one by one to deal with them. You have to call them by the name God calls it so that you can deal with it as He would. Is it anger or pride, is it foolishness or envy, is it slothfulness, it is bitterness… stop saying that just who I am or finding excuses for your nasty behavior. It’s not a walk in a park accepting some of these things you’ve protected for years. It’s not easy saying loud to yourself you are selfish or envious or plain ‘ol nasty. I didn’t think I had a temper. I mean how? Until one day this year, the fuse blew and wow wow wow boy was I amazed. I had to do a one man AA meeting where I sat on my bed and said hi, my name is Jewie and I have a temper.
One thing I’ve come to realize is that if God calls you out on something, He wants to help you deal with it. He’s not condemning you, He’s saying help is available. Don’t fight it or deny it because He will allow you to expose yourself. This year, I’ve learnt the importance of detoxing! It’s not always a piece of cake but it’s necessary for our growth. I know there are some hoarders reading this post and I want to encourage you to take the step. It could be people, memories, clothes, bad habits. Anything that holds you back or is keeping you at a stand still needs to go. Until tomorrow, stay blessed
“Clutter is not just physical stuff. It’s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.” — Eleanor Brown