MERRY CHRISTMAS LOVES🎄
Today I want to talk about definitions. Who is defining life for you? Who is defining the people in life for you? Where are you getting your definitions from? My dad says (you’d be hearing this a whole lot so don’t get tired yet) ‘the value of a thing is found in its definition’. He has been saying this for years but it’s this year that it hit me hard or well sunk in. Seriously, guys if I had started listening to years ago, my life would have been so much better.
” The value of a thing is found in its definition” – Rev Benjie Djin
He says if God isn’t defining things for you or you aren’t picking up your definition from scripture, best believe the world is and that’s where our problems as believers start because God is not resourcing things He doesn’t define and once he’s not resourcing it…. guess who is? If you define money like the world does, you’d use it just like it does. God is not going to finance you to build up the world now is He??
Most of us as believers have defined our partners, our parents, our pastors, our churches, our friends, our siblings, our children … our lives entirely according to the world. We know WHO our partner is but do we know WHAT a partner is? We say we want to make this person our wife but do we really know what a wife is, according to scripture? Do we know what children are? What a father is? What a Church is? We’ve labeled people and things yet we don’t have the foggiest idea what they are supposed to be. I mean if you don’t know what marriage is or well what God calls marriage, how do you expect to function the God-way in it? How do you expect to reap the full benefit of it.
I remember when my pastor went around the church and asked ‘who is your pastor’ and everyone mentioned his name ever so boldly. Then he asked, ‘what is a pastor’ and I froze. Wait!!! What is a pastor for real? How do we expect to reap the full benefit of him or appreciate the manner he acts and the things he says if we don’t know what He is; what God calls him.
That’s basically one of our main struggles with this walk. We fail to search scripture for God’s definitions therefore we CAN’T see the value of the things and people He created. I didn’t say we dont see, I’m saying we can’t see! Most of us define things in the light of the world and we have a problem when God doesn’t recognize it. That’s why scripture says ‘how can two walk except they be agreed’ – Amos 3:3 mind you it didn’t say unless you agree! Because we agree on things that are ungodly and unscriptural if you ask me. Excepting that it should work because we are in agreement. Scripture says except they be agreed, that means there is a 3rd constant in the equation. It means expect they both agree by something and that something is the Word of God.
Let me use money like I did earlier, you go to God praying to be prosperous. It’s your daily prayer but then you dont see money immediately so you start to believe God is failing but prosperity to God is an advancement into your destiny so you are praying thinking a truck of pounds will come to your front door or that you’d hit a big contract but God is dealing with the leeches in your life preventing you from destiny, He’s dealing with sickness and diseases But because you haven’t defined prosperity in the light of the Word, you’d grow weary thinking God hasn’t heard but the issue is, your definition is out of line with His.
I don’t want to really go deep into this topic today because I plan to pick it up and talk about how definitions is causing problems in our relationships. How being romantic means differently according to scripture. How courtship means differently. How media has influenced what we think marriage is or who a wife/husband is and the role they are supposed to play. God is the creator of life itself and everything that pertains to it. If He’s not the One defining it for you, you are living a life void of value. You are abusing it/them actually – yes abuse because the use of anything or anyone outside the way the creator intended for it to be used is ABUSE. That’s why rape isn’t the only abuse when it comes to sex. All manner of sex, agreed or not agreed to outside of marriage is abuse because you are taking it out of the context it was created for.
Some of us are abusing our parents, our children, our friends, our spouses because our definition is outside of scripture. It doesn’t matter if we both are okay with it, we are not the standard like we talked about a few posts ago. ‘Perfection is when we begin to call things as God calls them and function in those roles as God intended”. I don’t know how I ended up at abuse but I’d definitely be picking this up again. Until tomorrow, ask yourself. This is how I call this, this is how I’ve chosen to define this but what does God call it? Because it’s only then that it’s true value will be revealed.
PS: Sorry this isn’t your typical Christmasy post but what better way to honor the birth of our savior than to learn to walk like He did hehe Stay blessed loves